When you marry someone, you marry everything that made them who they are, including their culture and race. While marrying someone of a different race can have added challenges, if you go in with your eyes and heart wide open, you can face those challenges together and come out stronger. Here are a few things I've learned:. Your relationship needs to be tight enough not to let naysayers, societal pressure and family opinions wedge you apart, explained Stuart Fensterheim, a couples counselor based in Scottsdale, Arizona, and host of The Couples Expert podcast. Luckily, my husband and I haven't had to face many issues from the outside world. We're so "old" according to our cultures, that our families were just thankful someone of the human race agreed to marry either of us, and we currently live in a diverse section of New York City where no one bats an eye at interracial couples.
Difficulties Faced by Interracial Couples Historically and Today
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Dating is tricky -- even more so when you don't follow the cookie-cutter mold of what a relationship should look like. Less than 50 years ago, interracial marriage was illegal in the United States and even when the anti-miscegenation laws were deemed illegal by the Supreme Court in , interracial couples were harassed and discriminated against for decades. Now we live in a new, global era with more tolerance and understanding for couples that exist outside the "norms" for relationships As the "white" half of a Japanese-American couple, I noticed some of the same questions keep popping up again and again. After a quick chat with some other interracial couples, I realized my experiences were not unique. These are eight seemingly innocent questions that have deeper, darker implications for interracial couples.
7 Things Everyone Should Understand About Interracial Relationships
The country has a long way to go in terms of racial discourse, period. In the case of interracial dating, there are still huge stereotypes, misconceptions, and presumptions about what it means to date someone with a different race. So much of the discourse surrounding interracial relationships seems to center on black and white couplings. These are the images we see most in the media -- cis white men with black women, or cis black men with white women.
They point out that interracial relationships occurred under an imbalance and inequality of social power and status. Interracial dating presents a long list of difficult challenges and obstacles for couples to overcome. Many people, young people in high school and college especially, love their families and are dependent on family for shelter and education. They are heavily influenced by parental and family opinions and beliefs.