Maybe you always fave their tweets or occasionally comment on their Facebook posts, or keep an ongoing chat alive, but without ever doing anything to act on your attraction. At least, you are according to the internet. Eh, maybe. Cushioning is not cheating; it is simply realizing somewhere in the back of your mind or not that there are other people you could date should things with your current person fall through. You could call it having friends who you find attractive.
All Rights Reserved. Terms and Conditions of Service. Once we meet a man we really like, we women tend to dive right in. We want to give our hearts, mind and very soul to a man, and meld together into a perfect relationship. We give away our exclusivity before a man gives us the commitment we want. When we close off our options with other men too soon, we actually sabotage our ability to get the commitment and intimacy we so desire.
As the saying goes, fools rush in where angels fear to tread. This is definitely true with dating. You know how it goes: you meet somebody whom you are super excited about and the two of you dive totally into a relationship, but then, just as forcefully and quickly as the romance begins, it ends. A new romance is exciting and it is natural to want to go at it with total gusto, but the ability to keep your options open while dating instead of zeroing in on one person right from the start is a good skill to learn, because it keeps you from giving too much of yourself too soon and protects you from crashing and burning out on dating.
Exclusivity in dating has become a popular topic during my discussions with friends male and female. To protect your heart, it is suggested not to put all of your eggs in one basket. Date two, three or four different people…get to know them.. This is an understandable concept especially when you are just beginning to get out there in the dating scene. When is the appropriate time to focus your attention on one person and cut-off other prospects?