I was talking to my friend, Kim, as we sipped cocktails at a bar in Hollywood. She followed my gaze. I nodded. She raised an eyebrow and slurped on her vodka cranberry. Some background might be helpful here.
A black woman's guide to dating a white man • Divine K9
Once upon a time, Barack Obama dated a white girl. When details of this story came out last week , some outlets reported it with the thinly veiled implication that Obama, so beloved for having married an exceptional black woman like Michelle Obama , had some kind of dirty secret. That Obama, the first black president of the United States, allegedly felt that a non-black partner would be a liability to his political career says a lot about the way we view black leaders, activists, public figures and those whom they choose to date. But does dating a white person really make someone less black? Less down? Less woke?
I walked down the cereal aisle in the grocery store, determined to finish my shopping list. As I skimmed my eyes across the rows of boxes, I landed on what I was looking for: a jumbo box of Rice Krispies. I turned around and saw a handsome black man waiting patiently, with a cart full of groceries and a warm smile that briefly invigorated my tired spirit after a long day of work. He was wearing a professional outfit, leather dress shoes and a brown wool houndstooth coat with the collar popped. I smiled and apologized for holding him up.
Each oppressed black person battles to affirm their social consciousness amidst a world of chaos read: a world before and after Donald Trump. Crying into your iPhone as you think of the Congolese who were forced to mine the contents, or hiding as you slip Shea Moisture products into your basket, hoping no-one sees you and forces you to re-watch that disastrous media campaign. And so, when I realised that the vast majority of my favourite black bloggers were in relationships with white men, you can imagine why I thought I was being paranoid. I could not help but wonder if I was falling into the trap of being hypersensitive, and hyperaware about all things race. It all began with the first black blogger in whom I noticed the phenomenon sweeping the nation.